Where do the conflicts and where do the quarrels among you come from? Is it not from this, from your passions that battle inside you?
James 4:1 NET
There is a starting point for everything. James points out where the starting point for Believers who struggle with other people…your passions, that you haven’t given over to the Lord.
This references areas in your life that are important, but are not seen as important to others. Your desires, your views seem right and you are willing to stand up for it.
The problem is that if your passions don’t line up with the Will of God, with His Word, then they are selfish and are worldly.
We are supposed to be changed, new creations. We have moved from death to life. Our desires, our passions should line up with His.
Problems come when we don’t let go of our ways and let God’s ways take over.
What makes you angry? What depresses you? When you reflect on those things, do they come from God or do they come from your own thoughts and desires?
If they are yours, then you need to ask God to help you let go of them. You need to ask God to replace your desires with His.
You need to dig deep into your relationship with Him, renewing your mind, spending time in His presence.
He will change you if you let Him. He will give you a new heart, new desires. The things of this world will pass away.
Give it to Him, press into Him and see what happens.
Lord, make me and more like You. Help me to release the things that ruffle my feathers, but have no eternal value.